Ever been to an event and you couldn't get past the bouncer because you are not on the list? 

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At the doorway to your mind is a bouncer.  If there are things you want to have (better relationship, better financial security, better health, better lifestyle etc). if those things aren't on the list, those things you really want  WILL NEVER BE LET IN. 

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It can take years to change the list - even decades! 

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